Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Why is the narcissist messing with me? Because something about you triggered their SHAME. The narcissist lives in a fantasy self they've constructed. They believe in their mask as thoroughly as you once did. But it goes further than that: they also believe in the fantasy that they are. They will pretend to compromise and still do whatever they want to do. You just probably won't know. If you get them to do certain things, they may reluctantly do them and knock you off the pedestal at the same time, devaluing and detaching from you. Narcissists don't compromise. At the end of a relationship, narcissists may become combative, passive-aggressive, hostile, and even more controlling. People with NPD often fail to understand other people's needs and values. They are hyper focused on their egos, but do not account for how their actions affect others.THE CURE: The surest way to destroy a narcissist is to move on with your life. Heal, take time to regroup, get in a support group. Surround yourself with loving and healthy individuals who love you for who you are. Go no contact and block the narcissist and stick to it. The End